Is Your Girl Ready for Summer Camp?
Fri, 02/22/2019 - 09:00
“Sometimes the only available form of transportation is a leap of faith.” ~ Margaret Shepard
What is more powerful than having faith in yourself - faith that you can do that thing that scares you – that you can do something entirely on your own - that you can meet that impossible challenge and accomplish the goal before you?
There is not a specific [an agreed upon] age that determines a child’s readiness to attend a sleep-away camp. The decision is not so much related to age, but is really determined by the developmental maturity of each child, and variables associated with their socialization and relationship attachments to family - particularly parents.
As they say - ‘we come into the world alone, and we leave the world alone’. So we need to be comfortable with ourselves. From the earliest stages of childhood into our adult lives, we are striving to be individuals and declare our uniqueness in the world. It’s simply human. This progressive maturing to independence is a gradual rite of passage. A seminal part of growing up is marked by moments and experiences that develop and define it. Nurturing a young person to be comfortable in their own independence through participation in a sleep-away summer camp can be a perfect introduction.
Alpengirl offers introductory camp sessions in Montana and Washington. Lil’ s Adventures are shorter than other Alpengirl sessions. These weeklong camps cater to first-time wilderness campers aged 11 and 12. The shorter duration and modified itinerary allow for a smaller emotional and financial commitment, which can ease concerns for girls and parents who are not 100% certain about attending a longer multi-adventure Alpengirl session. Whether she chooses to attend depends solely on the girl - on her comfort, maturity, readiness, and desire.
At Alpengirl, we say ‘Travel to camp is the adventure before the adventure.’ Whether a camper has traveled independently before or not, this portion of getting to camp can present great opportunity to flex her independence and safely test her wherewithal.
For girls (and parents) not quite ready to navigate airports alone, or who desire an added level of confidence to the travel experience, especially for a novice - we suggest utilizing the Unaccompanied Minor travel option. This option is provided as an add-on to airline travel. Unaccompanied minors are escorted by a designated airline representative from the moment they leave you to the moment they are greeted at the airport by camp staff.
A majority of girls who attend Alpengirl come solo, and we begin each day with this in mind by engaging in socialization and ‘getting to know you’ games. Throughout camp girls are paired into buddy systems to further their socialization and bridge the unfamiliarity they are all feeling. This too, helps to initiate bonds that inevitably form during their time at camp together. When girls come to camp with a friend, they are not as likely to step outside the comfort and familiarity - and pattern - of that friendship, in order to fully experience the new relationships and environment surrounding them.
We often receive feedback from girls about the importance of new friendships made with girls they ‘would never have met otherwise’. The long-lasting benefit of girls experiencing camp independently greatly out-weigh the security of participating with a friend, which may in some cases, hinder experiences for both - as it may prevent them from reaching out to others or breaking from long-held beliefs about themselves and others.
Nurturing the whole person is integral to Alpengirl, and socialization is a big part of camp lifestyle. Creating comfortable transition to a new group dynamic and environment aids each camper in development of her social skills and further develops her social intelligence. Described by psychologist Dr. Daniel Goleman, as a combination of social awareness and social facility, social intelligence is key to success in many aspects of life. He defines social awareness as the ability to observe and examine our internal workings, thoughts and feelings (and qualities such as empathy, perception of others and social cognition). Social facility is defined as use of internal social awareness (to successfully engage others - groups and individuals alike) - such as affinity or concern for others and how we present ourselves. 1
Camp produces ample opportunity to develop both of these areas of social intelligence. With access to new people and new and changing surroundings, it is ripe with opportunity to practice social awareness and social facility and can result in a more natural incorporation of these important skills into life.
In considering whether your daughter is ready for multiple nights away from home, you should take into account whether she has spent nights away from you before, and make your decision partly based on how she has behaved during those separations and how she felt after. These considerations can greatly inform your decision.
The other aspect of determining her readiness is the girl herself. She should know as much as she can about her chosen camp session, and she should be well-informed so she knows what to expect. Is she comfortable in her capabilities and preparedness for a tent camping and wilderness itinerary? Making sure she is well-prepared can bring her confidence and allow her to feel safe about being away from home and away from familiarities that are typically comfortable to her.
You should talk with your daughter about camp, and ask her what her expectations are, making sure she understands what the camp is about and how it is set up. This way you can prepare her physically and emotionally for all the new experiences, from food to friends. These conversations and preparedness can assist you in determining any likeliness that your daughter may have of experiencing homesickness.
If homesickness is a concern, know that it can occur for a girl of any age, for a varied number of reasons, and it is a natural part of spending time away from home - particularly for those attending camp for the first time. It is important to focus on the great potential for fun, and the new experiences your daughter will come away with (and reminding her how excited you will be to hear about it all when she returns home). Focusing on the positive aspects of camp will calm any uneasiness and lessen the likeliness of homesickness arising in her while she is away. These preliminary conversations can help to insure that her camp experience will have lasting effects on her development and her sense of independence. This is also helpful for you, as parents, to feel confident in her departure and period of separation from you.
If you are considering pairing your daughter with a friend so they can attend camp together, it is advisable to consider their relationship, and talk with them about the importance of forming new friendships at camp as well as enjoying their time together.
Sending your daughter to camp with a friend can bolster her comfort and her confidence. If she is going away to camp for the first time, attending with a friend from home can sometimes be the one thing that provides her the comfort and confidence to take this bold step in the first place.
If your daughter does attend with a friend, you (and the girls) should be prepared for them to be in different tents and to be separated into different groups at times throughout their camp experience. Diversified groupings increase the likeliness for girls to establish a broader network of friends, and helps every girl in the group feel connected, included, and valued.
Keep in mind that when sending friends off to camp together, there is the possibility for the two friends from home to drift apart somewhat at camp. Each girl may experiment with her own independence and connect with other campers in the group as they develop new friendships and bonds.
Whether you consider having your daughter attend camp with a friend or independently, her camp experience will enhance the breadth of her perspectives and enable growth and self-sufficiency that will positively impact her for many years to come. If you are sending your daughter to camp solo, keep in mind - she is never alone. She will be embraced by the natural camaraderie and bonding that occurs in Alpengirl’s small family atmosphere and she will inevitably come away from her experience with new friends, new insights and new inspirations. ~ By Contributing Writer & Former Alpenguide Kimberley Green